Dad on the red lawnmower and Harold on the green one.
Uncle Harold
When people ask me how I came to be a writer, I tell them
it’s because I grew up listening to great storytelling. My dad and Uncle Harold
were two of the biggest storytellers I ever knew. If you asked them a question
about when they were young, one story flowed into the next, and pretty soon a
whole afternoon had passed by.
My earliest memory of Uncle Harold is in Ma Williams’s
kitchen. He pulled me on his lap and asked, “Who’s your favorite uncle?” I
giggled and said, “Billy.” He proceeded to tickle and torture me, as I went
through, the other names, “Junior, Jimmy, Howard,” until finally I howled
through my giggles, “Uncle Harold.” “You finally got that right,” he said, “and
don’t forget it!”
When I was growing up, Uncle Harold was in and out of our house nearly every day.
He loved to come just as we were finishing supper. He’d eye the leftover stewed
potatoes and biscuits, and Mama would always tell him to help himself. There
was no such thing as a leftover if Harold was in the vicinity!
Though he acted tough, Harold had a tender heart. The first
time our family was actually scarred by death was when Uncle Junior died. We
were all gathered in the funeral home, and it’s hard to say who was crying the
hardest. It felt as if my heart would break, when suddenly I was wrapped in a
pair of arms as strong as a bear’s—Uncle Harold’s. “It’s not fair,” I sobbed.
“No, it sure ain’t,” he said, “but Junior wouldn’t want you to cry.”
Uncle Harold loved kids. When I’d visit after Alex was born,
Harold could hardly wait to see how much he’d grown. And Harold never visited
empty-handed. He’d always pull a dollar out of his pocket, and when Alex got
older, the dollar turned into a ten or a twenty, as he asked him, “Have you got
a girlfriend yet?”
In later years, my memories are of Harold pulling up to
visit in his golf cart. He was like a kid with a new toy. And his smile was
always biggest when I’d ask about Cleo and Cross. He loved bragging about what
his grandkids had been up to.
Last year my dad was in the hospital for over a month. Mama
and I were struggling with whether or not to remove the ventilator. Uncle
Harold said to me, “Mack wouldn’t want to live like this. If he could, he’d
fight that ventilator with everything that’s in him.” After that, I knew what
we had to do, because outside of my mama, dad’s brothers knew him best.
When I got the call that Uncle Harold had passed away, I
could hardly believe it. He always loomed larger than life, but here’s what
brings me comfort. Uncle Harold lived a long, wonderful life. Kelly took pictures
of his last Easter, and the smile on his face showed me he was happy until the
very end.
As we’ve lost more and more members of our family: Junior,
Ma and Pop Williams, Eric, Nelda, Jim, Robin, Tony, Little James, Abby, Max, and
now Harold, I’ve gotten this image in my head. Ma Williams is standing in front
of her old wood cook stove. She just pulled a chicken pie from the oven. The
dining room table is loaded with a chocolate pound cake and all sorts of
sonkers and custards. Some family members have arrived early, and they’re
waiting for the rest of us, but there’s no need to rush—we’ve got all of
eternity.
I love you, Uncle Harold. Rest in peace.
Your favorite niece, Shannon